Thursday, May 5, 2011
Thirty-Three Years and 4 Children Later, I Appreciate My Mom
Yesterday morning, my husband Shawn walked into our bedroom, chuckling as he relayed to me a conversation between him and our 7-year old son, Cade. Now please keep in mind that I homeschool Cade as well as our 6-year old daughter, Lucy. Also keep in mind that probably about twice a week, I walk into Shawn’s office, eyes brimming with tears, and resolutely announce, “I can’t do this [homeschooling] anymore; it’s too much. I’m gonna lose my mind.”
Hence the conversation between Shawn and Cade:
Cade: One of my friends at baseball doesn’t like going to school, but his mom doesn’t know about homeschooling.
Shawn: Buddy, homeschooling is a lot of work.
Cade: Mom doesn’t think so.
My response: uncontrollable laughter.
But isn’t that just like a child to think that all this “being a mom” stuff is really rip-roaring easy fun. Don’t get me wrong. It is fun. But it is not easy fun.
It’s hard work. Of course, I never realized this fact till I had kids of my own.
Never once, in my eighteen years as a resident under my mother’s roof, did I ponder the number of laundry loads she did in a day. I never marveled at the fact that there was always, always food in the fridge, meals ready at my finger tips. I didn’t wonder if there were other things she might want to do at 9 in the evening rather than running the vacuum and loading the dishwasher.
Those were just things a mother did.
And now they are the things that I do.
I didn’t think enough about my mom when I was a child, but now I think about her all the time, while I’m folding laundry and changing dirty diapers and tidying up the kitchen. I think that it would be nice if she was right here standing beside me, like when I was a little girl, and I could thank her for doing each of those chores a million times over for me.
Mom, you are and have always been a spectacular mother, sacrificing in ways that I will never know or understand. I love you more than words.
I hope all you moms out there have a wonderful Mother’s Day!